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It started at the beginning of last summer when I began talking to one of my best friend’s (we’ll call him Duke for future reference) friend and we hit it off right away. I wasn’t really looking to date anyone prior to meeting him, but I couldn’t resist how well we seemed to click. We talked for a while and went out once and then again about a week later. It didn’t work out. He was a nice guy, but VERY unreliable. Always asking if we could reschedule and such and it really got on my nerves (only to find out later he wasn’t really looking for a girlfriend anyways…). Although short, this started a cascade of events in me.

I decided I was ready to date again. I had been out of a long, serious (and long distance…) relationship that ended badly for almost a year at that point, and I was finally ready to let it all go and give someone better a shot.The only problem was that I was in summer classes all day, 5 days a week, with a lot of “homework”, all summer long. It was organic chem II and it was kicking my ass for the second time. It made it hard to get out and it made me not want to go out, but I was really ready too meet some new people. Another best friend of mine (we’ll refer to him as Doctor) mentioned that he was on quite a few dating sites, mostly for shits and giggles, but that he had talked to some people and thought it was worth a shot. I thought about it for a while and decided I’d try it out, what’s the worst that could happen?

I went home and signed up to one of those free well known dating sites. I took about an hour to write up some things about me and uploaded a few pictures. Within 5 minutes of setting it up, I already had half a dozen messages from guys trying to start a conversation with me. I didn’t know what to think, I was not expecting any contact so quickly, but I was in for a huge surprise. It became normal for me to receive dozens and dozens of messages from different men everyday. It was so overwhelming, that honestly, I ignored the large majority of them. I felt bad, but at the same time there was just too many messages to take the time to “reject” everyone I wasn’t interested in. I dated A LOT of guys… at the same time. The large majority were one-timers; one date was enough for me to know it wasn’t going to work. Overall, however, there were no guys that were terrible. They were all respectful and my online dating experience was quite successful because I was smart about it.

One of the only longer term daters, was a guy we’ll call Camaro. We were dating casually and I was continuing to go on dates with other guys while doing so and I’m pretty sure he was seeing other girls as well. It was during this time I started talking to this guy who was in the navy. The idea of dating someone in the military was kind of “eh” to me; I wasn’t sure exactly how I felt about it. Regardless, I gave in and we setup a date.